In the middle

Category: Singles Spit Swap

Post 1 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Saturday, 18-Dec-2004 16:29:35

I'm seventeen, and I feel like it's time for me to have a boyfriend. I haven't had one in a while, but I'm not going to be desperate. That's dumb! There are times when I get really lonely, but on the other hand, Sometimes it's nice being single. This is how I feel. If I get involved with anyone, cool, but if I don't, Then I don't. I'm just going to wait it out.

Post 2 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Sunday, 19-Dec-2004 21:30:17

Just to let people know, I am looking, but I WILL NOT allow desperation to make me lose my head

Post 3 by The Shuck Fitter (My name is Liam) on Monday, 20-Dec-2004 5:20:40

good idea. I've seen people get desperate. It's actually amusing the things they do.
well.. Ok, I've done it a few times myself

Post 4 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Monday, 20-Dec-2004 23:12:59

I once went to the prom with a desperate guy, but that was because I wanted to go to the prom, and the guy wasn't too bad. I could control what happened. He was desperate, but I could always say no. My friends thought I needed my head examined. But I just went to have fun, and I did. There were no problems or anything, but everyone made a big stinck about it.

Post 5 by The Shuck Fitter (My name is Liam) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2004 8:18:24

I went to the prom with a friend of mien a few years ago. I more or less just went to go. I mean. There was no real reason to go. I'm not a social person, so.. it wasn't all that enjoyable.

Post 6 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2004 15:27:10

Mine was a blast.

Post 7 by Grace (I've now got the ggold prolific poster award! wahoo! well done to me!) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2004 15:43:29

Greetings israeli chick, The title for this topic in some respects says so very much, "In the middle." I am glad to hear you had a blast, that you enjoyed yourself inspite of the situations that presented themselves. The main thing is being true to yourself and then as you reach out to others finding that one that is being true to their own self... the hope being at some point in time the two of you find each other realizing differences will prevail and o.k so I am idealistic...*smile* Back to the title of your Posting... I feel that way too, a place no matter age where we many times through Life find ourselves. For me it is being in the middle as it were between maturing sons and a Mother who is aged...the feeling of being pulled in all direstions. I encourage you to keep private space JUST FOR YOU in all of Life's changeing times. All the very Best to You in your search. Connie here

Post 8 by Spanish Cloud (Veteran Zoner) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2004 15:45:13

OK girl. Let's see if my English is good enough to convey the message I wanna say...

I get really desperate at times too. I'm 22 and I've had only one girlfriend when I was 19. She's the only girlfriend I'd have. And you know when she came along? When I less expected her to! So what I can tell you is that love will come along when it has to. Don't force it kuz if you do, it won't work out I'm telling ya. And I think you should talk to a friend when you feel desperate. Friends, if they're true friends, are very supportive , and I'm quite sure you do have more than one of those.

So take care, and good luck.

Joaquín

Post 9 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2004 17:19:00

Thank you guys.

Post 10 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 30-Dec-2004 22:27:25

Allright! I'm looking. I'd prefer my guy to be in between the ages of seventeen to twenty-one.

Post 11 by Caitlin (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 01-Jan-2005 4:04:58

Hi IC. I know lots of people your age and older who don't have a boyfriend. So don't fel like it's socially time for you to have one. You can have one whenever, ifever, you want to. As for the prom, I don't knwo what I'm gonan do myself! I mean I'm not antisocial, but I'm not social in the way of going to dances. And none of my friends go to the dance. Oh well. I'll cross that bridge when you come to it. But my main advice is: don't feel you need to get a BF just 'cause everyoen else has one, and don't ,don't ever be desperate, and think you need a BF to survive, that's just horrible, don't do that, it's hard on you and others. So you go girl, keep up what you're doing.
Caitlin

Post 12 by Caitlin (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 01-Jan-2005 4:05:19

And Liam I applaud you for going to the prom with jsut a friend. That's probably what I'll end up doing. Lol. You go!

Post 13 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Saturday, 01-Jan-2005 12:22:17

As I have said, the prom for me was cool. the first year. I ended up leaving my date, because a friend had brought my boyfriend. We spent the night talking and dancing. We spent half of the next day talking, and I got sick of him. It was entirely too much time together. I waited for about two weeks, and on the date of our second month aniversary, I broke up with him. It was hard, because I knew it would hurt: it hurt us both, but I had to do it. I think going out with someone just because they're there is wrong. The second year, I went with the same guy, and I had a blast. We spent some time together, and it was nice. I had lots of fun. I think the funniest part was when they D.J. played The Time Of MY LIFe from Dirty Dancing, and my date and I agreed to dance together. Well, in the middle of the song, my date wanted a group hug, so we did. Well, the group hug was a little long. It got really warm, and I had to get out of there. Also. I had a really bad sunburn, and I had on a spaghetti strapped dress, with a shawl over it, but when we were coming back, we had a bad limo driver who liked to slam on the breaks, and we had leather seats. OH My God! It hurt! I had a great time though. I wouldn't trade it for one minute of doing something else.

Post 14 by Caitlin (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 02-Jan-2005 20:14:49

Lol wow IC sounds like fun, except for the sunburn part hehehehehe! Lol. And yeah going out with someone just 'cuz they're there isn't really nice, but if you both are just going as friends, or just to be going, and you both know that, it's okay. Like, if you both want to go to the prom, and need a date to go, and you both know that's yoru reason, at least at first, I think that's okay, if you both know.
Caitlin

Post 15 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Sunday, 02-Jan-2005 20:37:53

I agree.

Post 16 by Caitlin (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 02-Jan-2005 20:38:45

Ll yay! Just wanted to explain that I didn't think leading people on is nice.
Caitlin

Post 17 by JH_Radio (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Tuesday, 04-Jan-2005 14:20:58

I think the Prom is more for the girl then the guy. Same thing about weddings. I went to my prom, with the girlfeidn taht broke up with me about five months before. We're good friends now. Prom was okay. Music sucked. Food sucked, and those two things made the night last two long. Oh well. At least I can say I went to my highschool prom. I'm singel too, I'm 22, more info then anyone cares to read about me is in my profile. John

Post 18 by Formula1 1999 (B & B forever!!) on Tuesday, 22-Mar-2005 20:31:00

I notice that this is really old and no posts for a long time. Just thought I'd say, don't worry about findin someone now. U've got many years to go. Just don't jump into anythin u have the slitest doubt about. I'm speakin from experience on all fronts. Hope the best for u. Jason

Post 19 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Wednesday, 23-Mar-2005 12:26:51

That's why I haven't had a b.f. for two years. I haven't foundone that I really like.

Post 20 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Sunday, 03-Apr-2005 17:55:35

israeli chick i'll be your boyfriend, but if i come over there will I get blown up like the rest of you?

Post 21 by Mr. Boomstick (Account disabled) on Sunday, 03-Apr-2005 17:57:51

That's rather harsh Blindguy.

Post 22 by puppybraille (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Sunday, 03-Apr-2005 19:42:33

I'm staying single. If I find someone who's really impressive (who I fit with,) maybe. But I've got way more important things to do than look for some guy.
But that's just me.

Post 23 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 03-Apr-2005 20:18:55

best of luck to you ic, but youll find that special someone one day. patience is a virtue, remember that.

Post 24 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 20:13:50

Well the answer for blindguy is no you won't, so don't worry about that. Well, I'm going to the prom again, but I'm going, "all by myself." How fun! Or not!

Post 25 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 16:30:49

hey I went to Turn About Dance with friends. It wasn’t bad. I had a lot of fin and I dance with three wonderful guys. Hehe lol hey I also know that feeling “being in the middle thing” but I got use to it. The best thing to do is, not to expect from anyone and sometimes if you feel something good about that person then take a risk. It might be worth taking a risk ones in awhile. But if I were you. Just take time and enjoy every second of where you are and it will all come into place. Oh and by the way, don’t ever rush things, its really not a good idea.